MARRIAGE AND CRASS STRUGGLE FOR MATERIALISM IN OUR SOCIETY.

Marital decision and journey should be a personal affair not parents or extended family affairs. Not that they don't have their own little moral contribution but it's rare as the major contributions family and in-laws would appreciate is to be a thin god in your marriage, especially, your mother, mother-in-law, sister-in-law and your sisters in most dangerous scenarios.

This external influences in marriage should be a topic on its own for deliberations. Vast different bitter experience from different people but they won't share for others to learn from. Personally, my mums influence over my marriage is zero tolerance from my side including my in-laws, same as that of my sisters and extended families and friends.

My cross is mine not anyone so, we should carry it the way and manner we know best bearing in mind that you alone know where the pain emanates from.

Marriage is not the ceremony but the real you and you you end up sleeping and waking up on the same bed, everyday for the rest of your life. Endure your cross as divorce too is not a reasonable options. Every man and woman out there is an unknown devil readying to manifest. A known devil is better off and manageable.

Make a home not ceremony! Marriage is really not about materialism or affluence because in real sense, a couple without the knowledge that life itself is ups and downs, is vulnerable to temptation bitterness,anger and vindictive acts that sometimes may lead to death. In fact, marriage is not something that should be turned to a competition.

Every couple must know that life is not a bed of roses. Even the richest persons on earth have their challenges in marriage not known to anyone. There's no best formulae for marriage or a blissful home order than understanding and maturity from both couple.

Your home is yours. You both must establish the approach of protecting it away from negative external influences. Even counsellors to me are unnecessary as they too have their secrete marital problem. Any form of counselling should be done before marriage and you both must have it that you are embarking on a lifetime journey and so, at the back of your mind, especially ladies, you should not have that relaxed confidence that your parent doors would be open to you as a ready made enterance when you have problem or disagreement with your husband.

Providing for the need of your family as a husband or wife is secondary. The primary reason for the coming together of a man and a woman is productivity to ensure continuity of life and humanity on earth. So, in achieving that, we must learn how to live peacefully.

No marriage is perfect as its a union between two incompatible entities.

These are my views and opinion. Approach yours the way you want and deemed fit.

God bless us.
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